I AM Minding My Business

Yesterday, I was driving down the street in the Van Beast, rocking my mom jeans, on the way to pick up the kids from swimming. I noticed a woman walking up the sidewalk.

Then a car pulled along side her and a man got out. He grabbed her and tried to force her into the car.

What the what? It was broad daylight. In my neighborhood.  I slammed on my brakes and rolled down my window.

“Are you okay?” I asked her. What a ludicrous question. She was obviously not okay, there was a man grabbing her.

She assured me she was fine.  The man got angry and told me to mind my own business.

The minute he put his hands on the woman it became my business. I AM minding mine.

Do not come into my neighborhood, my streets, where my children play and think I’m going to go along to get along and that I will just look the other way.

He came towards me, so I opened the door and got out. Then hopped right back in because I hadn’t even shut off the engine or put the car in park!  It happened fast and I wasn’t thinking.

I kept on not thinking and got back out of the car to confront him.  He was dressed as though he worked in an office, but started taking off his clothes.  He removed his tie, then unbuttoned his dress shirt.  {I guess he was getting ready for a fight?  With a mid-thirties mom blogger in a school bus. Tough guy for sure.}

He told me again to mind my own business and randomly told me he owned his own home.  {All righty then, Ragey Dude.  Good for you. Go mow your lawn and leave this woman alone.}

The woman got between us and started placating, talking him down.  They seemed to know each other.  I asked her again if she was OK, I told her I could give her a ride anywhere she needed to go, asked her if there was anything I could do to help her.

She turned me down.

I drove away.

I went around the corner and called the cops.  They can come deal with the craziness.

I don’t think my husband appreciated the part where I got out of the car when I told him the story.  He was scared for me.

I guess it was a little scary.  I could have gotten hurt, though I wasn’t really thinking about that at the time.  Mothering all these children all day, including the teens, gives me the confidence of a drill sergeant.

This is what we are called to do. Love one another.  If it were my daughter, my sister would I have stopped?  Absolutely.  Do I stop for a stranger? Yes. Even when people are bigger than I am, or madder than I am.

Love one another.

We cannot stand by and allow evil to flourish. We have to stand in the gap for each other.

A few days ago my husband told me about a news story, where a woman was beaten in public while her toddler tried to help her. People stood around and watched, filming with their cameras. No one helped the woman or her child.  I was appalled. No one helped her? How could that be?

I am not a bystander and I hope I never will be.

I love comments. Tell me what you think!

  • Loida Casares July 1, 2014, 2:17 pm

    I applaud you for your courage! A few years ago my father who was 86 at the time was walking down the street when a random stranger attacked him and started to beat him. Thank GOD for the random acts of kindness of people who stopped and called 911. I wasn’t there so I don’t know if it was men or women but sadly they did not get out of their car. If it was a woman or women I totally understand that they didn’t because the crazy could have hurt them too. But THANKS to them the police got there quickly and the man didn’t kill my dad.

  • paula July 1, 2014, 9:32 pm

    I commented on your FB post about it, but again THANK YOU for saying something.

    It’s amazing how rare that is, even when it is your daughter or sister or friend. I know from personal experience that people don’t say anything all too often. My mom certainly never did and neither did ANY of my family or friends even though they all knew or “suspected” it was going on. I can’t fathom why no one would say anything (and I was just a kid for goodness sake). She may not have left today, but just seeing a complete stranger stop and say “this is wrong” may get her thinking. That might be the first time she’s heard that she’s worth more than being treated that way, the first time she’s unable to say “it’s my fault he does this”. That one stop could changer her entire world one day, so thank you. <3

  • Margie July 3, 2014, 12:09 am

    Proud of you! Although I might have just rolled down the window to ask the woman if she needed help. Too many people are afraid to get involved in others’ problems. I’m glad you offered to help, and glad you called the police, too.

  • Me July 21, 2014, 5:03 am

    Stay in your car, lock your doors, call the cops, and don’t leave the scene until the cops come. don’t believe someone when they say they are OK if your gut tells you differently. I am that person who will always speak up, including for kids that I think are being mistreated. I don’t care what people say. I was an abused child and no one spoke up for me. I can change that for others. WalMart shoppers are horrible to their kids, and I will say something every single time.

  • Joy July 22, 2014, 2:13 pm

    You did good! I would have done the exact same thing and have before. I don’t have any 2-legged kids (mine have 4 legs & fur), so I do have a concealed weapon permit and have been through lots of training. No, I did not pull a weapon on the person when I stopped, as that would have been foolish, BUT it was peace of mine knowing it was close by…

  • Robin August 19, 2014, 9:39 pm

    Good for you. I have had to intervene with strangers recently in order to help a child (attacking dog, speeding weirdo) and boy we mama’s will get our McGruff on if we need to. WE don’t play. We will take you down.


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